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Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Attitude is everything


I have a belief system that a happy daily life requires a great attitude. I have thought this over the last few years and it has helped me to deal with the "stuff" that life has a tendency to throw at you, just to test you. That is why you will find on my blog mainly the things which enrich my life and make me happy- not because my life is perfect (because it isn't) and not because I am trying to pretend that it is either but just because these are the things I like to focus my life on. As humans we have a tendency to focus on the negative in our lives and not to let go of the past, I believe this can bog us down in the present and cause us to be unhappy.

This faith and belief system that everything happens to us for a reason has been tested to it's absolute limits for me over the past 18 weeks of my life. I wake up ever morning hoping it will be different, hoping that on this day I will feel great and I will not have to pretend to be happy and well. And almost every morning is the same- I feel sick from about 10 minutes after I wake up- that's about 6am until I go to bed at about 11pm- that's 17 hours of feeling like I am going to die.

But through it I try to decide to be happy every day. Why? Well because it is not all about me anymore, I have Flynn now and he deserves better, he deserves a mummy who is able to get up and make breakfast and do activities and be the best mother possible under the circumstances. This is not to say he doesn't see me meltdown- he does only the other day I sat down in the middle of the nursery and just cried and cried- because I was tired and frustrated and exhausted and wanted so badly to feel better.

This was taken a little while ago and although I was not aware it was being taken I am glad it was as this is real life, this is me at the moment and this is part of my daily struggle- having a sick moment. I was so grateful to have a break from the sickness over Christmas/boxing day but now it is back with a vengeance.

8 Comments:

Blogger Blossom said...

Jade I feel for you at this time, I know how hard that sickness can be, it really is such a testing time and it is just awesome to see that you have the attitude and wisdom to keep on going in the everyday things. If I was just around the corner from you I would dearly love to help you out. I pray that you start to feel better soon and know that at the end of it all will be joy. Even in that photo you still look pretty and polished :)

M xxx

December 29, 2009 at 9:31 PM  
Anonymous Paulette said...

Wow!
That post hit home.
What an amazing way of looking at things. Thankyou Jade. I need more of your attitude!
I hope things settle for you soon. A positive for this could be a reminder that your precious babe is doing well!

Try and put your feet up (hard with a toddler I know)

December 30, 2009 at 5:51 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I feel for you. Just want to share a snack that worked for me, has worked for some friends and not others. I found having a sanitarium up and go first thing really helped. It stopped the hunger that made ms worse and if I couldn't keep it down, at least it was liquid.

First thing for me was hop in the shower and drink my up and go while I was in there.

Your positive way of viewing life is one of the best gifts you can share with Flynn.

December 30, 2009 at 9:17 AM  
Blogger Tanisha said...

The first paragraph of your post really hit a nerve with me; as a result I am promising to myself to make a conscious effort to focus on the good parts of my life. I wholeheartedly agree that we focus on the negative too much and it gets in the way of actually living a great life.
I hope you feel better soon :)

December 30, 2009 at 9:19 AM  
Blogger shaynec42 said...

Jade you have a wonderful attitude - one that personally find really inspiring. Thank you for pointing out that life is so much better when you focus on the positives rather than dwell on the negatives. I am really really going to try hard to keep that in mind next year - we will be building our dream home and moving in with Dh's parents and so far all I have done in my mind is focus on how hard it will be. Now I am going to try to focus on how amazing it will be when we finally finish and move in! And I will focus also on the great points about where we will be living. Built in babysitters, having most of the cooking done , being closer to the zoo, beaches and city - all of which I hope to take advantage of often!
I hope your MS eases soon, take care,
Shayne

December 30, 2009 at 12:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jade, I really feel for you. There is only 17 mths between my boys and my second pregnancy hit me for 6! Sickness all day, back pain and major fatigue, but it does end eventually! You have a wonderful attitude and here's hoping you feel better soon. Love your blog by the way!

December 30, 2009 at 1:17 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

Thank goodness you get something wonderful at the end of the pregnancy Jade! I really hope the all day sickness eases up for you soon. What a bonus that you still look radiant and gorgeous, even though you don;t feel that way :)

December 31, 2009 at 2:42 PM  
Blogger Jade said...

Thank you for your kind words of support girls : ) It really does mean a lot to me. xx

January 1, 2010 at 8:56 PM  

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